For couples navigating the quiet drift of daily life — who haven't stopped loving each other, but have stopped feeling like lovers. Whether you're the one initiating or the one being invited, this 8-week practice rebuilds closeness slowly, gently, together.
Conversations that used to linger now end at the logistics. Touch that used to spark something now feels like routine. You're good partners, good parents, good at running the life you've built together. But somewhere along the way, you stopped feeling like lovers.
It happened so gradually you barely noticed, until one night you're lying in bed beside the person you love and realize you feel more like roommates than anything else. You can hear them breathing right there, and still feel completely alone.
The heaviest part isn't that you've stopped loving each other. It's that you haven't. You still love them. You just miss the warmth, and the way you used to look at each other and feel something stir.
Here's what I know. The closeness didn't disappear. It went underground, waiting for attention and rhythm to call it back. And it can return. Steadily. One week at a time.
Designed to guide, inspire, and anchor your weekly Sure Thing practice.
Change the cycle of co-managing your life into a reliable habit of connection.
Soften your nervous system and replace reactivity with openness.
Cultivate open-heartedness with curiosity, and let ease back in.
Reconnect with your innate sensuality, desire, and unique expression of pleasure.
Create a fulfilling pleasure practice you design, and keep it going long after week eight.
Intimacy is medicine for the heart, soul, and body.
When we prioritize pleasure, we stop running on empty and replenish our bodies with energy that infuses the rest of our lives.
Signal to yourselves and each other that self-care and connection matter.
Shift from a state of stress to a state of openness, together.
Deepen your inner knowing and untangle the conditioning you inherited.
Tap into the immense, intrinsic wisdom already living in the body.
And the joy doesn't stay in the bedroom. It fuels every other part of your life.
"Really just what we need as empty nesters in need of fresh inspiration for our weekly connection dates. I love it!"
"I walked away from shame, guilt, and sacrifice, and instead feel free and connected."
"This practice has deeply enriched my life and the intimacy I feel with my partner."
"It has been truly beautiful to reconnect to my body in this way."
Ten minutes or all night. Orgasm optional, fulfillment required. The only essentials are a clear intention and a regular practice.
Thursdays, 12:00 – 1:15 PM Pacific, live on Zoom. Guided group practices, somatic deep dives, and support to create a practice that inspires you. All sessions recorded, so you can watch on your own schedule.
This is an experiential love laboratory, not group therapy. Sharing is never required. Keep your camera off or on, you choose.
We use The Sure Thing book as the framework for your solo or partner ritual between sessions.
A personal session to fine-tune your practice, work through obstacles, and make sure it lasts.
I'm a lover, mother, activator, mentor, and priestess. After my debut book, The Sure Thing, became an Amazon Bestseller, I designed this course to inspire and support others to start a weekly pleasure practice. I've practiced The Sure Thing for over five years, and it continues to be a miracle in my life and marriage.
I began my exploration into the infinite realm of pleasure and intimacy in 2001, teaching intentional connection, heart awakening, and regular ritual for over 15 years.
I live in Berkeley, CA with my spouse, teenage son, and pup. I can't wait to share this with you.
The things people wonder before they say yes. If yours isn't here, just ask.
Come exactly as you are. Sharing is never required, and there's nothing to prepare. Keep your camera off or on, whichever feels right. Every session is recorded and sent the same day, so you keep every week. And your private 1-on-1 with Elana makes sure your practice actually lasts.
Get a taste of The Sure Thing — the weekly practice at the heart of the Summer of LOVE. No commitment, no cost. Just a first step back toward each other.
Send Me the Free Starter →Thursdays, 12:00 – 1:15 PM Pacific
Live on Zoom · 8 consecutive weeks · June 18 through August 6
You can keep co-managing the life you built. Or you can spend this summer building something that brings you back to each other. Pleasure can return. It just needs a practice.
Yes! I'm ready for the Summer of LOVE →Have any questions?
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